“You’re so beautiful for a big girl!”
“Have you ever tried to lose weight?”
We’ve all been there. As a plus size woman, I’ve found that people always feel the need to put in their two cents on my body. They claim to be “concerned” for our health and just want us to be happy. Well newsflash, I AM happy! You are not my doctor, so who are you to say I’m unhealthy? It’s a huge misconception that plus size women aren’t active and only eat junk food. I, for one, workout regularly and eat clean. Even if I didn’t, you still don’t have the right to judge and make comments. In high school, a “friend” of mine once told me I didn’t like a certain restaurant because it served healthy food. OKAY. I would rather be fat than have a terrible personality. Just because I love myself and my body now, doesn’t mean I’m not continuously working on bettering myself.
Which leads me to this: is it possible to lose weight while preaching body positivity? There’s been a lot of back and forth on this, and while I don’t agree or disagree with one stance, I think it is possible. I am personally on a weight loss journey, but it’s not about the numbers on the scale for me. I’m not trying to “get skinny”, I love my curves! It’s about how I feel and getting my health under control. In this community, it is our responsibility to support and uplift one another. Why should weight loss fall outside of that? We should all be leading healthy lifestyles, which includes eating right and staying active. Sometimes weight loss just comes with that, sometimes it doesn’t and that is okay! It’s about bettering yourself from the inside out, stimulating natural energy, cleaning out toxins and gaining strength.
If you decide to lose weight, there are a few things to think about. Are you doing it for you and you alone? Although the plus size industry is continuing to break barriers, society is still putting harmful pressure on us to look a certain way. Do you love your body the way it is now? If you sit in the mirror picking out your flaws and go about your day hating the way you look, weight loss won’t change anything. You need to learn how to love yourself first. I know, it’s easier said than done, but I promise with time it will come! Emerge yourself in this community and reach out for support and advice. Is your goal to lose weight, get stronger, better your health or all of the above? Don’t just head to the internet and start trying out random plans from Pinterest. Talk with your doctor about your goals before partaking on any weight loss journey to see what’s best for you.
Whether you’re losing weight or not, it is no one’s business but yours. We are all beautiful the way we are at this very moment, and people will always try to say otherwise. It’s all about loving yourself and your body at every stage. I hated my body when I was at my smallest, and now I love my body as I’m coming down from my heaviest weight. We shouldn’t be afraid to talk about our weight loss within our own community. I’ve seen other bloggers/Youtubers be torn down for publicly discussing their decisions to lose weight, which in my opinion is just unacceptable. It is okay to be fat and it is okay to want to lose weight, it’s your choice and yours alone. Let’s encourage each other to be the best versions of ourselves, from the inside out. As long as you love yourself and your body no matter what, outside opinions do not matter. What are your thoughts on weight loss in the plus community?
Taylor Shanle (@blondeambiition)